Think about how often you tell your coworker what a great job she did. Or how often you compliment a friend about how good she looks .
Then think about how often you compliment your spouse or partner.
Because we are so familiar with our partner, we feel more comfortable complaining about our looks--or his/her looks. We forget the compliments and the thank you messages. These are equally important in intimate relationships. Since we want our partner's approval and support, it is important to share our positive thoughts and feelings about him/her. It also helps to share some positive experiences or thoughts about ourselves so that they continue to regard us positively too.