With the freshness of a new relationship, you can’t imagine not being with your loved one. When you are single, you are lonely and only wish to find your soul mate.
But what happens when you feel lonely within your relationship? Most people feel a desperate need to cling more. While others isolate due to their sense of helplessness and depression.
So, what if you learned to become comfortable with that loneliness? What if you could find a healthier balance with your dependency?
These would be better ways of coping with your loneliness. Relationships need give and take. Asking too much of your relationship or of your partner/spouse constrains the relationship.
The healthiest relationships allow for each person to have independence. Each person needs to be self-sufficient; able to be a peace within. This gives each person the freedom to develop and become more whole. Then each can give more fully to the relationship without the fear of becoming consumed by the other. Then you each have permission to move freely in and out of the relationship while still feeling secure and happy.